(continued from part 1)
Later on in the book, Don began to adjust to the change by shifting to a “new mind configuration”, like from the scheduling mode to the adaptability mode, and that is how he is able to experience a fuller life.
As a super nervous traveler, trips is full of the unknown, I am encouraged to shift into the “fearless adventurer mode” for my next trip. I want to use my energy to enjoy the time with my companions and not waste it on my irrational worries.
And for things I did not plan for… How will I know I’m in the wrong mode? When I feel frustrated.
I’ve known it’s not helpful to add negative emotion during problem solving. With this method, it is now a concrete step to help me execute the solution with efficiency and without the self-imposed turmoil.
That means things may change but I now know how to shift into peace.
Other traits I share with Don Tillman
(Don Tillman wouldn’t think of writing this review without at least one list)
- I value directness
Though I might be better at reading social cues and capable of using flowering language, I much rather not having to guess or having others guess the meaning of what’s said. It seems a waste of time and energy.
- Socially challenged
In 6th grade, my classmates called me weird. I was aware that I am not like others but never thought it was a problem. Come to think of it, I did not have many friends then.
In junior high, by accident, I became the class clown on several occasions.
- My intensity is misinterpreted as mania
I am curious by nature and love asking people unusual questions. Sometimes my intense interest scare people away.
- Solving issues by books/research
I, too, tend to go for books or do research when I encounter a problem. Even when it’s related to spirituality and mental wellbeing which might be better solved by going through experiences.
Over the years, I was lucky enough to add intuition and self awareness to my toolbox.
- Living by projects
- A book project (a soft sci-fi fiction)
- A metaphysical project (for evidence of a Buddhist belief that mind creates all and as related to the “observer effect” in quantum physics)
- Cooking projects (retry on various steam buns and thin-style dumpling skin)
When I have a goal, I plan the steps necessary, then set out to finish each no matter how long it takes. I didn’t not know before reading this book but I was living by projects.
Right now I have: